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Your mindset – Eating Soup With A Fork…

For years my mindset was to be a very negative person, carried lots of baggage, and just threw pity parties for myself for the heck of it.  But in the last few years, I really started thinking about my mindset, and how it has affected the rest of my life choices.

So when you hear this phrase, do you think negatively or positivity:

Eating Soup With A Fork…

 

When you wake up in the morning you get to choose your very own mindset every day. Think about that for a second.  That is an amazing power to hold. So what do you chose to do?

  • Start the day with a positive outlook, or do you
  • Start the day with a negative outlook

It’s so easy to start with negative thoughts:

Gosh, another day of work.

It’s only Wednesday!

It’s raining/too cold/too hot outside

It’s just so easy to do that, and I’ve done it so many times.  But what if just for a month, you woke up and found something positive to say? Every November, I see so many people post things they are grateful for building up to Thanksgiving and I see so many people find good things to say and less negative vibes. Why don’t we do that every month, every day? Is it so hard? Now, let’s face it. Some days it will be hard and you will have to dig for something to be grateful for, but try it. You will find something to be grateful for each and every day. A good attitude doesn’t just happen, you have to work at it.


The above video was recorded a while back and really states a point that I feel too many people forget. There are so many approaches and possibilities we have each and every day.  Some which you can control while others you cannot. Keep positive as much as you can. You have to be happy with what you have and where you are at now or you will never reach where you want to be.

Think about it this way = We can’t control the weather or control others, so why complain about it.  Instead, go with the flow with these factors and find a way to make it work.  If you go through life just being happy when things are going your way, you will find that life does not go your way often.  Instead, if you go through life finding things to be grateful for, life will go your way much more often.

Seriously – Set your tone for your day, and life. Try it, what do you have to lose? You can make the choice today and do one of the following:

  • Go out expecting problems & people not treating you nice, you will get your wish.
  • Go out expecting people to be good to you. If it doesn’t happen, keep a smile on your face and go with the flow. Something will happen even better. Maybe not today, but it will happen.

 

I’ve heard this type of mindset similar to faith.

You have to believe it before you see it

 

When bad things or people come into your life, realize it’s just part of the plan. One good break can make up for all of those bad-breaks in the past. You have the choice to look for those breaks!

Do you see beauty or do you see prickly?

prick-beauty


Being negative is a lot of work, and draining to your body

Your life follows your thoughts. If you think

“This is not going to go my way”  = no problem, it won’t

“I’ll never meet the right person” = that only draws in loneliness

“I hate my job” = only draws negativity to your workspace, which effects your performance

“I’ll never do that” = you’re right, it’s only going to draw in mediocrity

Go out keeping your mind focused on the good thoughts, makes your mind too full for the discouraging thoughts

Years back, I didn’t like the way Olive Garden’s cheesecake tasted. Instead of complaining, I went home and learned to make them, and they are better than any manufacturing company can make.

I also didn’t think have confidence that I was good at DIY’s like woodworking or making things with my hands and was afraid to start any project. But then I told myself it couldn’t be that hard, so I learned to make candles and soap, next building small things with my hands, and now I am not afraid (too much) about what I can carry out with the right tools. Challenge me!
I also believe that in many cases, your body will not get well until your brain gets well.
For me, I think a good part of my health over the years has played a role in my mental health. I feared so long that seizures would affect me and always focused on them. I told myself one day that I wouldn’t let them control me or who I am, and it’s been over 6 months since my last seizure.

Give yourself permission to be happy

This is going to be a good day!

 


So, instead of thinking that

“Eating Soup With A Fork” as impossible and as negative as possible,

Think about “Eating Soup With A Fork” positively, in which you can never can get enough.

 

*I originally posted the article Eating Soup With A Fork in 2010, and have been so grateful of my relative who had such great wisdom. I read that journal entry she wrote for a reason; I am sure of it…

 

 

 

 

 

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